The eye cannot see what the mind cannot fathom. I’ve had the quote above in my draft box for months. I’ve known there is something in this quote for marriage but each time I’ve begun to write it just hasn’t been there. So, here’s the thing, we all have our blind spots, things or areas […]
What is Gatekeeping?
One of the questions that I get asked about marital sex is, what exactly is a gatekeeper? What does a gatekeeper do? Why is gatekeeping not a good thing? Well basically a gatekeeper allows for regular sex but only on their terms. They limit sex to only those things they are comfortable doing very seldom […]
Gotta Clue? Want One?
An exchange between a husband and a wife: Wife: What’s worse than not having a clue?Husband: What?Wife: Not WANTING a clue! Sadly, the state of many marriages is summed up in this humorous, humorous if you’re not living it, exchange. It is one thing to be blissfully ignorant, I mean, we don’t know what we […]
Karma in Marriage
I don’t believe in karma, I do believe that you reap what you sow though. Galatians 6:7 (NASB) Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. In other words, if you kick the dog when you walk in the door at the end of the […]
How to Get What You Want in Marriage
Too often we’re trying the wrong things to get what we want out of our marriages. One of the craziest things that we try that very rarely works is denying your spouse what they want. I don’t know if it’s vindictiveness or what, but we try it and will continue at it for YEARS. At […]
Marriage Helper: Sexual Rejection’s Eff
Too good not to share: From Marriage Helper, Sexual Rejection’s Effect On A Marriage.
You May Think You’re Being Generous, Per
Perhaps you are no longer refusing your spouse sex and you feel you’re being a generous by going past your preference for less sex but don’t realize that you have moved from being an outright refuser of sex to a gatekeeper of sexual pleasure. What is the difference between a “refuser” and a “gatekeeper”? A […]
A Confession: What I Fear
There are times that I look at my wife and realize how little I know her even though I know her so well. I hope you understand that, or, perhaps I hope you don’t understand… The realization of how little I know about her forces me to face one of my greatest fears, never getting […]
Women’s Beauty and Sex, They Both Sell
Dove’s “Real Beauty” ad campaign has been making the rounds on Facebook and Twitter recently. I really liked what the blog little drops shared in regard to Dove’s campaign. While I am not female I do think that there is one issue here that affect men and women differently and that issue is society’s influence […]
