Grown Up Marriage

Category: Marriage

  • How to Get What You Want in Marriage

    Too often we’re trying the wrong things to get what we want out of our marriages. One of the craziest things that we try that very rarely works is denying your spouse what they want. I don’t know if it’s vindictiveness or what, but we try it and will continue at it for YEARS. At…

  • Terminology

    When marriage issues occur we have a habit of framing discussions around perceived “needs” when what these “needs” really are are “wants” or “desires”. The issue here is that you aren’t going to die if all of your “wants” and/or “desires” aren’t met so the discussion of what you “need” from the relationship is derailed…

  • Marriage Helper: Sexual Rejection’s Effect On A Marriage

    Too good not to share: From Marriage Helper, Sexual Rejection’s Effect On A Marriage.

  • The Price of Peace is Integrity

    The cost of peace is integrity. When the price gets too high we break the peace. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. This is a two choice dilemma. I want to keep the cake and I want to eat the cake. To choose one makes the other impossible. The price that we…

  • You Choose

    I finally have something to say after a long dry spell. Thank you for your thoughts, prayers and kind words during this difficult time. Something I read recently made me realize that there are two options to the challenges we face in our lives and our marriages. 1. Accept it and live with it. 2.…

  • A Cold and Sad Winter

    It was a difficult winter as far as the weather for much of the country and it was a particularly difficult winter for my family as I lost my dad this past February. As such, I haven’t felt the inspiration to write. My apologies for that. Hopefully inspiration will hit soon. Blessings, Kentucky Colonel

  • Repentant, Reformed or Rationalizing Sexual Refusers

    DISCLAIMER: This thread is not about extreme situations where abuse is present but is about normal marital conflict and marriages that include two sinners. Somethings I’ve been reading recently got me thinking about the phenomenon of the “awakened sexual refuser” or the “former sexual refuser”. Recently I’ve also noticed another phenomenon of what I call…

  • Dealing with the Past in the Present

    There isn’t a one of us that hasn’t made a mistake in their marriage. In fact there isn’t a one of us who hasn’t made many, many mistakes in our marriages. One of the more difficult realizations on the road to maturity is that we cannot change the past and must deal with those hurts…

  • Boredom an Impetus for Growth

    It came to my attention recently that the quality of marital sex falls on a continuum from allowing your spouse to use your body as a masturbatory device on one end of the continuum to making erotic love to one another at the other end of the continuum. The former, allowing your spouse access to…

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