Grown Up Marriage
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Crucible or Fireplace?
Over the years I’ve been a member of a number of Internet forums, more than one on marriage. During that time a recurring theme that shows up on the marriage forums is the idea of being happy for what you have without expecting anything more as if marital intimacy is a continuum with an end…
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What Do You Really Want?
As I’ve mentioned before I’m slowly reading ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) by Hal and Jenny Runkle. Well I’ve finally finished part one of the book and only have one slight criticism that I won’t share until I’ve finished the book. What I read last night was interesting and Paul Byerly touched on it in his…
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I Have Met the Enemy…
and it is NOT my spouse. Marriage Works! (@mrgwrks) tweet, “Ideally, spouses should be in competition against an unhealthy marriage [not one another]” reminded me of the first time my wife and I attended Family Life’s Weekend to Remember conference. At the conference one of the first things the facilitators told us to do was…
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That’s Unacceptable. I’ll Take It!
This post is another about what Hal and Jenny Hunkle authors of ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) would call “Authentic Self-Representation” (ASR), and Dr. David Schnarch (affiliate link) would call “integrity.” Often in marriage we’ll choose to accept the unacceptable in the name of peace all the while realizing that what we are really doing is…
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It’s All About Control
This morning Lisa Merlo-Booth (@LisaMerloBooth) tweeted, “Get ur eyes off the other person & pay attention to what u’re doing. Control ur behaviors cuz u can’t control theirs.” Her tweet got me to thinking about the time we waste focusing on what we cannot control. This time would be much better spent on what we…
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Low Drive, High Drive Dichotomy
As we talked about in Do You Have a High Drive? there is this unseen element at work in every marriage that I call the dichotomy of the high drive and low drive. This dichotomy more than any other thing will put pressure on your marriage. How well you and your spouse handle that pressure…
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Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
I wandered over to Love and Respect Ministries today to see if Dr. Eggerichs had a blog. He does and the post that was up was one worth sharing. My Response is My Responsibility
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Integrity, Do You Have It?
As I mentioned in my last post I’m currently reading ScreamFree Marriage (affiliate link) by Hal and Jenny Hunkle. In chapter three the book discusses “Authentic Self-Representation” (ASR), Dr. David Schnarch (affiliate link) would call ASR “integrity.” Basically it is what it sounds like, authentically representing yourself to your spouse. If you haven’t read ScreamFree…
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Marriage Ministries – Some Are Better Than Others
You won’t catch me ragging on any specific ministries but there are some things that everyone should know. One of the signs of a good ministry is that they work on you and leave your spouse to God’s hand. Any marriage “ministry” that claims a poor marriage is sole the responsibility of the husband or…
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