I don’t believe in karma, I do believe that you reap what you sow though. Galatians 6:7 (NASB) Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. In other words, if you kick the dog when you walk in the door at the end of the […]
How to Get What You Want in Marriage
Too often we’re trying the wrong things to get what we want out of our marriages. One of the craziest things that we try that very rarely works is denying your spouse what they want. I don’t know if it’s vindictiveness or what, but we try it and will continue at it for YEARS. At […]
Terminology
When marriage issues occur we have a habit of framing discussions around perceived “needs” when what these “needs” really are are “wants” or “desires”. The issue here is that you aren’t going to die if all of your “wants” and/or “desires” aren’t met so the discussion of what you “need” from the relationship is derailed […]
Marriage Helper: Sexual Rejection’s Eff
Too good not to share: From Marriage Helper, Sexual Rejection’s Effect On A Marriage.
You May Think You’re Being Generous, Per
Perhaps you are no longer refusing your spouse sex and you feel you’re being a generous by going past your preference for less sex but don’t realize that you have moved from being an outright refuser of sex to a gatekeeper of sexual pleasure. What is the difference between a “refuser” and a “gatekeeper”? A […]
The Price of Peace is Integrity
The cost of peace is integrity. When the price gets too high we break the peace. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. This is a two choice dilemma. I want to keep the cake and I want to eat the cake. To choose one makes the other impossible. The price that we […]
You Choose
I finally have something to say after a long dry spell. Thank you for your thoughts, prayers and kind words during this difficult time. Something I read recently made me realize that there are two options to the challenges we face in our lives and our marriages. 1. Accept it and live with it. 2. […]
A Cold and Sad Winter
It was a difficult winter as far as the weather for much of the country and it was a particularly difficult winter for my family as I lost my dad this past February. As such, I haven’t felt the inspiration to write. My apologies for that. Hopefully inspiration will hit soon. Blessings, Kentucky Colonel
Repentant, Reformed or Rationalizing Sex...
DISCLAIMER: This thread is not about extreme situations where abuse is present but is about normal marital conflict and marriages that include two sinners. Somethings I’ve been reading recently got me thinking about the phenomenon of the “awakened sexual refuser” or the “former sexual refuser”. Recently I’ve also noticed another phenomenon of what I call […]
