Grown Up Marriage
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What’d You Expect?
Often when I hear what is going on in troubled marriages the question that pops into my mind is, “So, what’d you expect?” Building a strong marriage is difficult because it forces us to face our own worst enemy, our own selfishness. The thing that amazes me the most is how there seems to be…
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Because It’s The Right Thing To Do…
Paul Byerly’s post Control is Often an Illusion over at The Generous Husband prompted me to finally write this post that I’ve been mulling over for awhile. In that post Paul challenges us with the words, “Let’s be less about control and more about doing what we should do.” (emphasis added) It seems fairly obvious…
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Naked and Unashamed
As a follow up to It’s Just Sex… I thought it would be a good idea to further explore the idea of how sex is more than “just sex.” Intimacy is more than a code word for sex. Intimacy in and of itself has a greater meaning in marriage beyond the physically intimate. Choosing to…
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It’s Just Sex…
Ever heard this in your marriage? How about felt like that was the attitude of your spouse? It’s damaging to so many marriages. When we marry we marry “for better or worse” with the understanding that we’ll all work for “better.” Too many spouses are worried more about how little they can get by with…
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Control Yourself
Much of what I write about boils down to one thing, self-control. One of the things I’m finally learning in my mid-40s is that maturity and self-control go hand-in-hand. I began to realize this while reading Passionate Marriage (affiliate link). Remaining calm in the face of conflict allows you to control your response instead of…
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Marriage and Class Five Rapids
We live in an overly sexualized culture. Sexual messages are all around us everyday on billboards, TVs, and the Internet. As a Christian I believe that sex was designed specifically for the marital relationship. The best analogy I’ve ever heard compared sex to a class five rapid. A class five rapid is a powerful force…
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Wow, That Hurt
Hurts in marriage are unavoidable. The question is, how does a mature person handle them? I can’t remember if I’ve mentioned it before but Ephesians 4 has been a great resource for my marriage and, no, I didn’t mean Ephesians 5, I mean Ephesians 4. I know that Ephesians 5 speaks specifically to husbands and…
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What Does That Say About Me?
DISCLAIMER: There are a number of caveats related to this post. I hope that they won’t keep you from seeing the truth expressed. Not everyone’s experience is the same, so this may not apply to you or your marriage but it may apply to someone else’s marriage. Avoid the bunny trials because they don’t lead…
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That’s Not My Preference
DISCLAIMER: I am not always the more mature person in my marriage. I am blessed to be married to a mature, good-willed wife. Emerson Eggerichs author of Love & Respect (affiliate link) has a very good post on his blog this week entitled Who Goes First? [Spoiler Alert] His conclusion is that the “more mature”…
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